So here's the deal if you're ever hanging out with someone with food allergies, sensitivities or an otherwise restricted diet.
-Take them at face value when they disclose. Believe them.
-Ask if it's okay before you pepper them with questions. Let it drop if they say "No".
-Keep any guilt to yourself. It's not your fault and respect that I made an informed, adult decision when I showed up to a place I knew would be serving food I can't eat.
-Don't offer not to eat. You do not have to be a martyr for my cause. Remember what I said about informed, adult decisions?
-If you want to talk about what the hell unrecognizable foods are on my plate, that is usually okay and usually kind of fun (and with strangers, a great icebreaker).
-DON'T MAKE A MOUNTAIN OUT OF A MOLEHILL BY FUSSING.
-Because sometimes it really IS a mountain for us and it's enough work to manage our own emotions without trying to deal with yours.
(With all of my affection to 9/10 food service providers, who are totally reasonable about "food allergies" as a valid excuse for not ordering off of the menu or for letting me eat my own food in your establishment, plated or not.)This entry was also posted at http://cantarina.dreamwidth.org/190776.html. (comments: )